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I was all ready to write my LJ-a-day and then I realised I was quite, quite smelly. So here I am, freshly scrubbed and ready to pour my heart out in a public forum.

Or not! :P

For my bout of unprovoked philosophism is over. It took many twists and turns and went many irrelevant places. However, I think I have discovered many excellent things.

Thing 1:

I like people. While there are people I do not particularly like (the mad bitch springs to mind), I do not DISlike anyone, save The Evil One (and I was provoked). I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, see both sides of an argument (unless of course, I'm one of the arguers) and be nice to everyone. I try and avoid bitchy behaviour, and feel bad when I don't succeed.

Thing 2:

I have had enough of people who think that to be nice, and to like others equates to being dumb or naive or silly. I don't think there's enough kindness or generosity in the world. People think mean things about each other, they say mean things and they do mean or inconsiderate things. I think this is sad for them, but by all means their right to behave that way. What I can't stand is the attitude that kindness and a forgiving attitude make you an idiot.
I'm sure most of the Flist would agree with me, and had figured this one out long ago. This is just the first time I've written it down that way.

Thing 3:

I still want to be a nurse one day, but what I want RIGHT NOW is to work with children. Small ones. And I don't want to teach them. I particularly want to work with kids who are disadvantaged in some way: sick or in poverty or from broken homes. I just want to make life better for children, or even make sure they have fun for an hour. So... that's where I'm focusing my job search from now on. And I'm tired of waiting around for a job that might suit me. I'm emailing and taking a proactive approach. Because dammit, I would be GOOD at it. (Also, I'm poor...)

Thing 4:

I am going to endeavour to be more cheerful. Obviously, some days the serotonin will sink and that can't be helped. But I'm going to be more cheery. I am NOT going to complain all the time (but nor am I going to take on tasks I physically or mentally can't handle). Which brings me to...

Thing 5:

It is okay to say NO to people. It does not mean you are being rude, or a bad friend or not pulling your weight. Volunteering Disease stresses you out. I am going to try and remember to tell people no every now and again. I want to help, and there's a lot of things I want to do, even if they stress me out. But apparently stress will only make me sicker, and possibly incapacitate me so I can't do ANYTHING. Saying no is okay. No one will hate you.

And, along the same lines... Thing 6:

As the LorF-cartoon on my wall angrily states: BITE ME!

If people are pissing me off, I'm damn well going to say so. But I'm also going to choose carefully, and not pick fights at the drop of a hat. I will stand up for myself (and others) when I need to, and let things pass when it's not important.

That is all.

ETA: Almost forgot!!!

Yarrr, me hearties! Rum and so forth! Yaaarrr!


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Sep. 19th, 2007 07:16 pm (UTC)
Excellent list, old fruit. I've decided to be a rather jolly English gentlemen pirate. Yo ho ho and a bottle of brandy, First Mate Jeeves.

To add a footnote to #5, it's also completely acceptable to ask for something you need - whether it's help with vacuuming, someone to listen to you, or alone time with which to be a grumpy poopface. Seems rather obvious, but unfortunately easy to forget.
Sep. 19th, 2007 10:08 pm (UTC)
Good list, now stick to it! Thing one and two, are very good realisations to come to. Two is especially good, and I'm upset you ever thought otherwise! *crash tackle hugs* People who don't think two end up dying alone. Or at least, that's what I hope.

Yay for three!

Four is brilliant!

Five is bloody hard in my experience. As is six, but I encourage it. You can't help people when you're stuffed. But I hope you succeed. And if you do, please tell me any tricks you might have.

Good luck with the list!

and a belated Argh! for you
Sep. 20th, 2007 09:57 pm (UTC)
I absolutely knew it was Talk Like a Pirate day, on 17th I knew, on 18th I knew, on the 19th I couldn't remember a thing, on the 20th (it was 4 minutes past midnight) I realised what had just happened.

And it is a good list. Five is oh-so-difficult for me, but I'm slowly learning to be better at it. And for six I can tell you a story. Sort of. Well, I'm a rather mild-mannered person. I'm nice to people, if I can help them, I will, and I don't really get annoyed with people (well, I don't often voice my opinions). So when I feel I'm really being badgered (or... um. Something. My head is fuzzy at the moment.) and actually do tell people to... err, go forth and multiply (perhaps not in those words), it apparently comes as a great shock to people.

And, um, may I write you a letter (this is a way of asking an address where you might get it from). Feel free to practice the fifth point, should you so wish. ;)
Sep. 21st, 2007 12:51 am (UTC)
i got the parcel on tuesday but i have not opened it yet hun :) so thank u muchly - perfect timeing!
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